6. I
have a close relationship with my family and friends.
What if I'm afraid to separate from them?
Life as a monk in our community does not impose a complete
separation from one's family and acquaintances. The
support of loved ones can be very helpful for someone
experiencing the changes that come with living in a religious
community. Beginning the initial stages of formation,
including postulancy and novitiate, requires an extended time
away from family and friends (especially for those who
originally resided in areas that are far away from the
monastery). However, visits from family and friends can be
arranged and the use of postal mail, email and phone calls are
ways that someone in formation can maintain contact with
them. After vows are professed, each monk has time
allotted each year to spend away from the monastery that can be
used to be with loved ones. Also, keep in mind that as one
goes through formation and vowed life in the monastery, the
community members are not just there as co-workers, but they
also become companions who work together in the "school of the
Lord's service".